You're planning on getting married, but this man is not even divorced yet? Does he take you back to "his place" with his wife there? Yuck! Do not make plans, and do not even date him until he moves out, gets his own place and has the signed divorce papers in hand.

Do I think that's going to happen anytime soon? Not a chance. If his wife hasn't pushed him out the door by now, or filed the papers herself, something is very wrong with this situation. She is obviously fine with it, as is he. It's been 10 years!

10 years ago he was 32, older than you are now. The guy needs to grow up. That poor woman is probably doing his laundry. There are red flags all over here. You need to really protect yourself because I see all kinds of hurt coming if you don't.

Love, ~ Lissa