Amy Spencer

In addition to writing about love and sex for Maxim, Glamour , Real Simple, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, Match.com, and msn.com, she's a blogger, television guest and the relationship expert on Sirius Radio's Maxim channel.

She's also on board with Axe, the fragrance folks, to explain a recent survey. Axe asked Dallas women for the best and worst places to meet singles, what makes a good "pickup" attempt, and what hints they drop when they're interested.

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Q: So according to this latest survey, guys are kind of clueless when it comes to picking up women. What's the deal with that?

A: I think guys look at the big picture, while girls are more tuned into subtle things. The problem is girls think that guys will pick up those subtle signals. But they often don't!

When we did the survey, 67 percent of Dallas girls said that they have exchanged flirty glances with a cute guy, hoping he would strike up a conversation with her. But of those girls, only half said the guys acted on her glances – and a whopping 43 percent of Dallas guys didn't get the hint at all! This means guys should keep their eyes open.

Q: What makes for a good pickup?

A: Number one, it's about the location of the pickup. If you're in the right place at the right time, it will be much easier to start up a conversation.

First and foremost: Stop trying to pick up girls in bars. What we found is that the best places to pick up girls are actually in everyday situations – which are often overlooked. Over nine out of 10 girls in Dallas said they've seen a guy going about their everyday routine and wished the guy would strike up a conversation.

Q: It's intimidating to approach a woman. How can they man up?

A: I know, we girls can be scary! First, just know that every guy feels the same way.

According to our survey, looks have little to do with the outcome of your pickup. Don't believe me? Girls said the most important thing about a guy's approach is his confidence, wit and humor.

Also, try what I consider the most effective yet underused pickup line in the book: "Hi. I'm John." (Or whatever your name is.)